Who on earth can top the authors over at the The Lipstick Chronicles today? Not me!
I am speaking, of course, of that act one does for another in which most of the sexual gratification goes to one partner. Oh, sure, you can argue there’s some satisfaction for the provider. But let’s be honest. One half gets all the treats. That’s why they call it a job.
Gosh, what to talk about after that, huh? 🙂 Hmm, erotica maybe? Do you like it? Not like it? Buy it only online? Think it’s porn?
I have a theory about romantica/erotica written by women that I’m saving for the PhD, should I ever be crazy enough to pursue one. Basically, it involves women reclaiming for themselves, and in their own language, what has traditionally been a male-dominated market. While I have no problem with its existence, I’m not much of a consumer of the harder forms of it. Basically, I just get tired of the sexual mechanics. And I know there are some mighty fine writers of erotica out there who are capable of making the story (and do) so much more meaningful and complicated than what goes where. I just haven’t had the patience or time to go looking.
But maybe I don’t even really know the gradations of erotica. For instance, I like Brava and Blaze (are they erotica? Romantica? Steamy romances?). Loved Alison Kent’s Deep Breath. I’ve heard of Emma Holly but never read her. I get the feeling her work is much more raw than Brava and Blaze.
One of the things I don’t like about the harder (rawer? sexier?) forms of erotica is the expansion of the sexual relationship beyond the two main characters (I’m not talking subplots, but group sex). For me, romance is between two characters. (I prefer to read about a man and a woman, but there’s certainly a market for same-gender characters.) I don’t want to see the hero and heroine having group sex in order to bond more with each other. For me, that’s not romantic. And I do mean for me, because if you think romance can encompass that, then fine. I’m a big believer in the 1st Amendment. 🙂
[PS Rather than move furniture around, I redid my webpage. Yep, for the 4th time. I like it. For the next three months anyway…..] 🙂